Ok, I guess I'm on a roll today, having a new blog and all. I hope this doesn't mean that I won't be active for another month? LOL
For a while now I've been contemplating on whether or not I should get a maid. I'm the only one out of the family/friends who doesn't have one. Why? Not because I can't...no. Just because I like to do things my way. I'm very articulate about how things in my house are organized and cleaned. Therefore, I really don't see the need to get a maid.
However, living in the United Arab Emirates and being around the local Arabs, have made me realize what social people they are. Whenever we invite people over it is 10 or more. With those people come their children and sometimes their maids tag along. Of course the dishes are going to get dirty and we don't use paper plates here, we use regular, everyday plates. So you can imagine the pile-up we have in the kitchen afterwards. After the guests have gone home you don't want to walk into a dirty kitchen. This is where the maids come in handy. I don't want to refer to them as machines that are commanded to do what you tell them to do...but this is their lively hood.
You're probably wondering, "Why is she making such a huge deal out of getting a maid?" The answer is: in this country it is unusual to see a family without a maid. I'm not saying I couldn't get a maid if I wanted to, because I can. It's just that being raised up in a household where my mother played her full roll as a housewife, I feel that I should retain the responsibility of maintaining a home as a wife and mother should, too. I don't want to rely on another person to do this work for me. After all, am I not a stay at home mom? Don't I have the time from the moment I wake up to the time I go to sleep to clean and take care of everything else that should be done in the house?
Believe me, I've asked myself this question many times. But, there's always a yearning inside of me for someone else to wash that pile up of dishes in the kitchen sink.
4 comments:
Salamu Alaikum
I know your feelings on this for awhile. I think you should look into hiring someone part-time or something. Just pray istaqara about it and dont let anyone make you feel bad for having or not having, its your house and your family and its YOUR decision, so dont let anyone else make you feel a certain way about it! God knows I would use the help if we could!
Some days I would love to have a maid come and clean my home! I can completely understand your debate as to whether or not you want a maid. There's so much to think about and consider.
I think for where you are living now, it is harder to reach a conclusion... I mean.. you can always hire part-time... just to do major cleaning/ironing a couple-few times a week. But if you decide to have a get-together, and its not the day you have the part-time maid come... then you are still stuck with the dirty kitchen...
I say...go for it! Have her live at your in-laws and have her come to clean and then if you need her he can go ack and forth..that way you have your privacy which is key :) I used to say never never but now I am sooo for it...
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