Constructive Criticism is always welcomed

mood: sleepy

craving: Friday

salam alykom and hello to all my readers out there. :) I pray everyone is doing well. We're doing good, thank God. Just ready for the weekend. Have a great rest of the week and good night to America and Good morning to the rest of the world. :)

On to my entry.

After the entry I made about, Tell me a secret I left the anonymous on, i felt just maybe some readers want to be anonymous and are shy to post. Well, i had a reader who used it today. :) I'm all for constructive  Criticism, even if it's hurtful. Hey, everyone has their opinions and I'm opened minded enough to take it like a big girl. The anonymous user wrote.

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "We must always have old memories and young hopes": 

I hate to break it to you but you really need to get over it and move on. Every blog post is about what used to be. Your never going to get through it and move on if you do not start living in the now and being more positive. Your husband is gone and your not in his country anymore your in YOURS. Make the best of it and what you have bc its not going to change. I used to like your blog but I feel so miserable when I come here anymore so I do not bother like everyone else. 

 I have to disagree with you, about every blog post being about what used to be. First of all, you don't know me in person. I assure you that if you did, you would never know that my heart was ripped out piece by piece and thrown away, only to be found a while back. :) Positive? I'm one of the most positive people in my group. I never complain or talk about my situation to anyone. I have my two best friends and they are always there for me to help me. Most important, I have Allah and He's enough for me. Alhamdulilah (Thank God). I don't know if you've been through a divorce? If so, I'm sorry to hear. If not, please don't judge a person until you've walked in their shoes. Simple as that.

You don't come here like everyone else? Well, that's not what my emails tell me and the statistics. I get wonderful emails from many readers. Thank you everyone for keeping my family and I in y'all's prayers, it means a lot. I went back on my entries in the last couple of days. The funny thing is, there are no posts about my past in the last entries. I have a food entry, Islamic entries and photo entries. Those entries aren't about my past, they're positive entries.

Last thing I want to say to you. This is my blog and I write what my heart tells me; it's my therapy. As I said in another blog entry a while back. I would be very content if no one ever read my blog. It's mainly for me and of course with the hope of me helping others in situations like mine or even worse situations than what I've been through. I have a lot of positive quotes on here and a lot of positive energy. I've talked to sisters on the phone, who have read and still read my blog and they love it. But, different strokes for different folks. We aren't all the same and some people will be there for you thorough the tough times and when the hard times come, you really find out who your true friends are. I think that goes with the followers. The compassionate readers stay through, not only the good, but also the sad entries and they don't get frustrated as you have. You say you feel so miserable?  So, you're telling me, if one of your friends is going though a hard time, you're going to turn your back on her or him and say, "Look You make me feel so miserable that I can't talk to you anymore or listen to you anymore." ? Because that's basically what your saying to me now.

I like to think of y'all as my friends who smile with me when I'm happy and have compassion for all the feelings I have. I know there's more good people out there than bad. The glass is always full to me. If you talk to me for just ten minutes, you will feel my love for people and you will know that I 'm a people pleaser.  I do voice my opinion and I like to listen to what the other party has on their mind. That said, a lot of people call people like me a push over. No, I'm not that. I'm a strong person with values and morals.

final whisper: You can't let praise or criticism get to you. It's a weakness to get caught up in either one.